Endings..............

Endings, they come to us all, in different ways and at distinct moments in our stories.

The endings of a romantic nature though, usually finds those involved dwelling upon the feeling of a broken heart, instead of stopping to view the situation in the light of love.

Endings do not have to be difficult, full of anger, manipulation, tears and grief.

Endings can be done with calmness, kindness and compassion, having ended a relationship this way a few years ago I know first hand the gifts such a release offers.

It is easy to allow yourself to get caught up in the negativity and sadness of the situation, to wallow in the depths of depression that hovers around you, yet there is another way, one that will extinguish the fires of sorrow that threaten to overcome your soul, seeing you residing in unhappiness.

Seeing past the final outcome and returning to the beginning, to a time of love, a time of happiness is the place to begin your ending, for, it is here in these first untarnished memories that your salvation lies.

All relationships begin with love, and, they end in love also, only we don't see the reason for the ending, thus we focus upon the loss instead of the fact that a transition is necessary..

  Most of us can not see it there, lingering on the outskirts, watching as another story has reached it's conclusion, waiting for us to wake up and see the light.

See that a chapter has closed, but that does not mean you need invite darkness into your world.

Not all romances are forever loves.

Some are only fleeting, yet that does not mean that the emotions involved are any less than that of a love that lasts a lifetime, all romantic relationships are given to us to learn and grow, often we only need be with a lover momentarily, as the lesson may not take long to learn, it is when you refuse to grow that heartache and desperation sets in, keeping you locked in a quagmire of unhealthy emotions, which if not dealt with will venture out into other aspects of your life. 

By retaining your dignity and self love will see you side stepping any temptations of anger and retaliation when a love affair ends, these days with the media thriving on the sordid love lives of celebrities, and the unhappy millions who feel better seeing someone famous going through the public grief of a personal disaster, it is little wonder there is such dysfunction present within so many intimate relationships.

With this sort of mentality it is no wonder that most separations end bitterly, with family and friends taking sides, throwing nasty accusations and insults at each other, all spiralling out of control with a mass of unhappiness embracing all involved.

It does not have to be that way however, not if you are willing to see that perhaps, for whatever reason the universe had brought you both together is now completed, your lesson/s have been gifted, and with the gift of this ending your beginnings await.

Loosing yourself into the weight of an ego that is having a tantrum will only see you lead yourself into a spiral of self destruction, to a place of loneliness and bitterness.

However, if you take a moment to see the truth of love, it will become apparent that love has never left you, nor has it left your estranged love. 

Seeing the opportunity of growth before you in moments of darkness can be difficult to view at first, but, slowly, ever so slowly, a light begins to shine within, each time you cancel out any thoughts of negativity and gloom it shines even brighter.

At the end of the day we are all aspects of the divine, all of us a part of each other, the intrinsic bond entwines us all for eternity, in the stories that weave themselves in and around our hearts they connect us, reminding us of the radiant love that vibrates though us all..............