Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Take Time To Listen With An Open Heart.
Sometimes we find that the people we turn to the most for nurturing, comfort and support fail to be there for us, leaving us feeling vulnerable and depleted, empty and alone. Sometimes it is nothing more than an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on that is required, just an outlet, a sounding board. Hearing your own trials and tribulations said out loud can quite often supply you with the answer you crave, it may just need another to bounce off for you to see this. I know that when I listen to my friends tell me what is weighing heavily in their hearts, I feel privileged to be chosen by them, I know by opening themselves to me in this way means that what we share is special, beyond words. And that is what friendship and family bonds are all about, being there without expectations when you are required with an open and loving heart. Too many people are eager to judge and to criticise, thinking that they know what it is the other person is thinking, when clearly they do not. They take what is their hang-up or issue if you like and turn it around to become the other persons baggage, perhaps in an effort to keep their suffering under wraps, why? I have never figured that part out. It does not matter how well you know another person, you can not know what they feel in their heart or think in their mind, it is physically impossible. Yet many do feel they have this talent, manipulating opportunities where they are sought out for support and comfort into an opening to bully or to analyse instead, creating even more upheaval and heartache. We do not know what is best for another, we can not make another bend to our will, we all have our own roads mapped out for us, written by us and for us to achieve what it is we have come here to learn. It is not apparent to us of course as we struggle along in life, endlessly learning by the mistakes and challenges that come our way. The people we have in our life are here to assist us, to provide us with the right moment to find the answer, if of course we are aware of what is happening. Often we are not aware of this and so we go endlessly around and around in circles, repeating the same argument over and over again, having the same situations happen time after time. It is vital to listen with a closed mouth and an open heart, knowing that whether or not you agree or disagree with what you hear it is not your right to blame or assess another person and the choices they make or the life they lead. We all write our own stories, we update them and review them whenever we choose, nothing is written in stone, it is all subject to a rewrite, if we feel a lesson is too difficult to achieve in this lifetime, that is okay, we can always come back to do it again, with or without the same supporting cast. Experience is given to us by the challenges we live through and the wisdom we are granted because of it, therefore we can not influence anyone to do things our way, to see our point of view, to live life like we do, we are all individuals, each and every one of us, no matter what role we play in an others life story. Take time to listen with an open heart. Time to love without expectation. Time to nurture without hidden agendas. Time to treat each and every one of your special people with the dignity and tenderness they are entitled to, and you will find your life enhanced by love three fold.