Monday, July 09, 2007
Quality time with your special person is an very important aspect of any relationship and one that I think causes the most turmoil and overall breakdowns. By quality time I don't mean you have to go out and do things together all the time, I mean that when you and your special person are together you are both fully present not preoccupied with other issues that you may have going through your mind. In this ultra busy world we live in time to be and to relax are becoming more difficult for most people, there never seems to be enough hours in a day, weekends seem to fly by quicker and they are not as relaxing as they once where because all of a sudden there appears to be much less time and much more to do. Setting time to relax and unwind with your special person will ultimately enhance your relationship, by making this person you decided to share your life with know that they still are the one you wish to be with. Taking people for granted and accepting that they will always be there waiting for you is not something that one should actually count on. Leave your work at the office, worry about what to cook for dinner later, stay present and in the moment, give each other the attention you used to when you first met, when a single second felt like an eternity. The magic never leaves a relationship on its own, it leaves when people become either lazy or to consumed with their own importance to take notice at how their special people may be feeling. At the end of the day it boils down to treating your special people the way you yourself wish to be treated. It means taking the time to really talk to them, really look at them, to relax with them, totally, completely focused on your sacred time together.